One of the times I was
a hero to my surprise was when I was working in a pizzeria/ Restaurant at the
age of 19 years old and into my early 20’s.
In the back was a sit-down formal restaurant and a separate dinette area. The waitresses in the back
didn’t like me and were jealous of me because I was younger than them and they
thought that I was taking tips away from them by working in the front end of
the store and stopping customers from going into the back to them which was
never true.
They had their
customers and I had mine. And I didn’t make half the amount of tips that they
did ever, although I did alright for myself.
Really, they were just mean
and cliquey and I was too naïve and timid to stick up for myself to them. They
didn’t like that the owner favored me as well, took me under his wing to help
me.
I worked in the
pizzeria part of the store where only men worked; because of this and the fact
that I was young and attractive then, I was known as the “Pizza girl” (real
name changed for the story).
Only family female
workers had ever worked in the front area before I was told, so it was a bit of
an honor for me to have been trusted with the position, a position gotten only
due to me hanging around every day, all day long, pining after the owner's step
son who, I loved and dreamed of marrying one day and living happily ever after with
as any young woman would do at that age.
I would go in on the
days he worked which was mostly on the weekends because he had a regular job
during the week and did this for extra money, to help out and learn the family
business which he later became a major part of a few years down the road.
I would either walk by the
store a million times a day and look in the window hoping to see him and wave
or go in and buy a slice or two, eat it, and sit at the counter for like 3
hours sometimes talking to my dreamboat while he worked then go home and order
something hours later to be delivered just so that I could see him and talk to
him again because he was the delivery guy too, keeping him in my hallway for an
hour sometimes talking.
When they got wise to
me they started making my delivery the last one for the night so that we could
have more time to talk and others would not be waiting for their food.
Now a days they would
call that stalking but back then we just called it “True Love” an innocent
infatuation. Not anything like what happens in today’s world. We still had a
grip on reality but with blissful hope.
Most of the time you
got rejected for your unrequited love but we understood that disappointment was
just part of life and then it goes on even when we didn’t like it and it hurt.
It was the late 1980’s early 1990’s and so the tail end of innocence still
existed. I am very thankful to have lived and come of age at that time.
I was there so much at
the pizzeria that they joked with me all the time that they should give me a
job and so they did which, worked out just fine for me because I needed one
anyway, having just quit/lost my job at “Sterling Optical” or was it “The Wiz”.
Whichever one it was, it was one of those young adult jobs that I had as I/we
used to call them.
Time passed and I had
been working there a for a while already when one day while waiting the tables
an old foreign man came in with his little grandson. The grandfather didn’t
speak a word of English but he was a very jovial old man.
My station was standing
up against the corner wall outside of the counter, out of the way but alongside
the row of tables to my right at the ready to serve.
As I was standing there
usually just thinking my own thoughts, I noticed that the grandfather and his
grandson were having a great time. They were laughing up a storm. Only God
knows about what but whatever it was, it must have been good because they just
kept laughing.
I can kind of see the
old man’s smile and mustache in my mind when I think back to it. The boy was
about 5-7 years old I think I remember but maybe a bit younger.
All of a sudden this never
ending infectious, out of control laugh for the boy turned into a coughing
laugh, then a cough and he kept coughing and he wouldn’t stop.
His cough then turned
into a choke, now he was choking but oddly enough he didn’t seem in distress at
all but seemed like he was still laughing even though he was choking.
His grandfather who was
sitting there just kept laughing his head off so much so that you almost didn’t
realize that the kid was even choking because no one seemed to be in apparent distress.
I was like that looks
weird, is that kid, ok? I guess so because they are laughing. But is he choking
or is he not choking? It was really hard to tell at first.
The more I looked at
him the more I realized the kid was really choking and that this was getting serious.
I got the attention of
my boss behind the counter and told him, “Hey I think this kid is choking and
the grandfather is oblivious or something because he just keeps laughing out of
control.” Maybe he was just nervous but he wasn’t doing anything about it
either nor was he asking for any help. He just kept laughing.
Finally, the kids face
was literally turning blue yet he still seemed like he was laughing but now
something in his eyes looked different at the same time, fear I guess or not
understanding what was happening to him but realizing that it wasn’t pleasant.
The whole thing was crazy.
At that point I had a
gut feeling by looking at the kid that something needed to done and I needed to
act fast.
I told my boss we
needed to do something like the Heimlich maneuver. At this time, it was not
posted and mandatory in all of the restaurants as it is now fortunately. Now it
is only with name and some of the procedure changed.
And in all honesty, it
was relatively new to the general public at that time or at least that is how I
remember it. There was no signage posted on that night but shortly after that I
remember that it became mandatory in all restaurants.
I told my boss I was
going to try it. He looked at me with warning eyes saying “you better know what
you are doing because if you don’t, we’re going to be in a lot of trouble.”
Being a young person
and thinking as young people do, I thought, “don’t worry I know what I am
doing” when really, I didn’t, I only had an idea of what I had seen on TV, and being
an extreme hypochondriac myself, I often listened intently to any kind of
medical things in case I ever needed it one day but I never had any formal training
or anything like that.
Looking back at them
now and preparing my mind to help, for the life of me I could not understand why
the grandfather just kept laughing? He was oblivious and joyful. Didn’t he see
that the kid was turning blue? Didn’t he hear him or was he laughing too loud?
I especially loved kids
and I am a good person so, I wasn’t about to let this kid die while the
grandfather sat there cracking up out of his mind. Maybe he was hysterical or
something? I just thought he was crazy
for not worrying about his grandson choking and for not trying to help him. I
had to do something. I instinctually had to try.
I immediately went over
and put my hands around the kid’s stomach and looked at my boss behind the
counter, like are you ready for this? All along thinking, Oh God please let me
do this right and save this kid.
My boss then looked back
at me like you better make it good, this better work out right or we’re going
to be in big trouble. I looked back at him like ok, with some unknown, ignorant
self-confidence but not arrogance. Ignorant because I had never done it before
and really I was just winging it. More like I could do this, it will be ok was
what I was thinking when really I had no business thinking that at all but
you’ve got to be confident to be successful I guess right?
The kid’s life was in
my hands. I started thrusting his stomach in and out a few times with my fists
all the while hoping that it was going to work and not hurt him at the same
time paying attention to the fact that he was just a kid and that I needed to
be firm but gentle at the same time. In my mind I must have had my fingers
crossed for good luck.
The grandfather was still
sitting in his chair laughing his head off while I was doing this completely
unaffected it seemed. I was beginning to think this guy must be either really
dumb or really crazy. Doesn’t he know what’s going on here?
Finally, the kid
coughed up whatever he was choking on by the grace of God. I was successful,
praise God, I was so relieved and so was my boss who was now impressed with me,
glad the kid was ok and also glad to not have a pending lawsuit on his hands.
He was relieved that it actually worked and so was I.
The grandfather was still
laughing. It was like he was on some sort of a laughing machine that could not
be turned off. There was no thank you to me or even an acknowledgement of what had
just happened. He just smiled at me with his eyes while laughing, not really knowing
whether it was meant towards me personally or if it was just in general and
part of his wild laughter and state of oblivion that he was in.
Maybe he was even drunk
for all I knew but I didn’t smell any alcohol on him so I don’t think that he
was.
Even the kid started
laughing again. Then they both just kept laughing.
Not to float my own
boat but, I wonder what would have happened to this kid if I wasn’t there that
day because the grandfather just didn’t seem to get it no matter what was
happening. I am sure he loved his grandson very much and I am so happy for
their happiness and wild laughter but the whole thing was kooky to say the
least.
After that, for the
rest of the night, and for a couple of weeks later. I was a legend in the
restaurant with my fellow co-workers, my friends, the delivery guys, including
my love, the step son, they all congratulated me on being a hero they said.
They said “you saved
that kids life.” At the time I did not really think of it that way, I was
really very humble and more like I did what I had to do. I was actually very
modest and glad that I could be there and help the kid.
One guy, big John, Red
as we called him said “I was a hero and that it was great what I had done. He
said no really you were, we heard all about it” and kept praising me.
It was kind of cool to
be a hero for a while because I had done something good and everyone was happy
about it and appreciated me for it.
Really, I just got
lucky and so did the little boy and his laughing grandfather because I was in
the right place at the right time as they say and took a chance. For whatever
reason my mind clicked into to place at the right moment and my observations
were exact. Thank God I saw the Heimlich maneuver done on TV somewhere
previously at that time. Divine Intervention!
I was glad I was able
to help. The day ended well and the little boy was still alive and that was
what was most important. Of course, I felt good about myself for having been
successful and doing a good thing and helping people when I can like my mom had
always taught me to be especially by her great example.
Over the next few years
that preliminary practice came in quite handy when I had to do the Heimlich
maneuver on my mom a couple of times. I was very thankful that it worked then
too of course.
They say that when you
save someone’s your life that they now owe you for the rest of theirs and that
you are responsible for them now. At least that is what we used to say growing
up, an old wives' tale but originally coming from a Chinese proverb I heard.
I never saw that kid or
his grandfather again as far as I remember, but then again maybe they did come
in again once or twice after that but who knows.
God forbid one day I
may be in trouble and you never know that kid may just show up one day again
through divine intervention and return the favor if it’s true. Stranger things
have happened. Maybe he will save me with his infectious laughter one day! J
By:
Donna Van Blarcom