Monday, January 25, 2021

Nightmares

 

Our thirty sixth president, Lyndon B. Johnson and his family are coming to my house for dinner and I have forgotten to defrost the twenty pound turkey. A recurring dream.

My married life continues to involve issues with food preparation, so to have such a haunting dream is not beyond the realm of possibilities. Ben was a fussy eater. I was always phoning his sister Frieda or my mother-in-law to ask what and how to make the brisket, potato kugel or matzah brie. My mother was a terrible cook. She could bake marvelous strudel and pies but her everyday dinners were pathetic. She really only cared about feeding my tyrannical father, so every night she served him the same dinner meal of gedempte fleysch (potted or stewed meat) with potatoes, sour pickles from Joe’s and a glass of seltzer. Yes, I do remember being served peas and carrots from a can and the Monday night ritual meal of mashed spinach and potatoes. So, I did not bring great culinary skills to wedlock, Settlement Cookbook was a help but mostly it was Frieda or my mother-in-law to advise me.

As a young couple, dinner parties were the style of our social life. We had a lovely and interesting set of couple friends and we all took turns with dinner invitations. These dinner parties became more and more elaborate. It reached a point where it was a competition to outdo the last invite. Suddenly I was setting a table with my hand embroidered tablecloth, matching napkins, sterling candlesticks, Rosenthal gold rimmed dishes, Waterford crystal stemware, and sterling silver flatware. Two burning candles added to the splendor. But what to cook for the dinner party? Irene had made her dinner with an all Chinese food theme (home cooked, not ordered in). Martha chose an all Italian theme and served scrumptious chicken parmesan. Jacky did the veal francaise with a rice pilaf side dish. Janice beat me to the cheese blintze casserole. What would I serve? Food preparation for my husband. Food preparation for my friends. Food preparation became my wide-awake nightmare.

I don’t need a psychotherapist to interpret my recurring nightmares. President Lyndon B. Johnson and family are coming to my Thanksgiving dinner and I have forgotten to defrost the twenty pound turkey. I wake up in a panic!!!

 

Ethyl Haber
January 2021

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